I have been thinking about Summers, we are one week in to the summer break and so far everyone is loving it. We are sleeping in late, and generally enjoying being lazy! However, I realise that this is such a valuable and exciting period of the year – 2 months off school, and I don’t want to waste it being lazy the entire time (although don’t get me wrong, I do think that a little bit of lazy is good for the soul, especially the souls of 2 tired school boys).
Today I spoke to my sister. She is 21 and enjoying her third summer free from forced parental holidays (which I actually really miss now, woohoo for free holidays). She is in Italy, then Monaco, then maybe here but maybe America – she has so many choices, so many options open to her, the world is her oyster – or at least for this Summer while she is on her Uni holidays.
Which gets me to my point. Luis is 8, when he leaves school ready for uni (or the working world/footballing career/astronaut training camp – he is undecided yet) at 18 how likely is it he will want to spend the whole summer, let alone part of is with me, his dad, and his siblings?
I have 10 summers left with him. 10 two month stints in which to enjoy him, be free from the routine of school, and just ‘be’. 10 summers until he finishes school and I am able to say to him ‘go and explore, the world is your oyster’ and I am speaking to him via skype in Italy, or wherever he is. It is not that many, just 10, hardly any really.
I have so many dreams, or even activities that I want to accomplish in those 10 summers. Things I want us to experience as a whole unit – the Clev 7, not just mum+dad and some of the kids (or worse – mum+dad+kids+tag along kids friends/boyfriends/girlfriends). I want to experience a summer spent living in Barcelona, a summer in Paris, a whole entire summer at the beach in Florida just like when I was little, a summer driving to and then around Italy and of course the great American road trip summer. Then there is the second home dream (obvs this one will come into its own once I have a first home) where my children (who will most likely be teenagers by this point) can run in the French countryside, swim in the pool, spend whole summers and then grow up and bring their families for whole summers too.
Well thats 5 summers gone, just with those plans. 5 out of my 10. I guess I better get saving and working and making these dreams into plans right?? Because while it is great to be lazy and do nothing and love on my kids – its great to work towards something too.
So this summer, well we are off home for 2 weeks, the boys have soccer and golf camps, a weekend at Granddads, and lots of fun in between. Im hoping for some beach days, some park days, picnics and going out on a few nice walks, exploring Ireland some more and if we can get away then maybe a weekend in Belfast or Cork. Lots of time together but lots of free time and encouraging independence too, a nice balance of down time and ‘doing’ time.
It might not be a magical summer full of amazing getaways and family adventure, but it should be a good one full of happy memories all the same.